If you don’t know me or have never read any of my articles before then you should know that I’m about 2 things – getting fit and living a fulfilling life on your own terms.
One of the secrets to success in any aspect of your life is to simply condense the nonsense. In the book Essentialism, Greg McKeown repeatedly makes reference to how we need to develop the ability to “decipher the trivial many from the essential few.”
This statement resonated with me so much because I now realize how we all, myself included, get caught up in so many irrelevant things. If we simply learned how to focus and prioritize our daily activities, we’d get so much further ahead.
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If you want to become a powerhouse in the gym and in everyday life, take note of the list below:
1. Focus only on what you can control – Stop wasting time and energy worrying about things that are outside of your control.
For example, other people’s opinions (especially from people you don’t even like in the first place), your co-worker’s salary, or even a negative comment on one of your Facebook posts are not worth losing sleep over.
Start focusing on what YOU need to do and as long as you have the best intentions and providing value to others you can hold your head up high.
Work hard, do what you love, and surround yourself with supportive people – those are things that are completely within your control.
2. Get rid of the haters – Nothing will bring you down faster than negative energy. Like I said, surrounding yourself with the right people is so important.
If there’s negative people in your life that can’t wait to put you down or discourage you from doing what you’re passionate about, then you need to ditch them – QUICK!
Don’t make excuses for them or let them influence your decisions, just find people who are on the same page as you that will help move you toward your goals.
And remember, if you have haters, it’s only because you’re doing something important and worth talking about.
3. Stop over analyzing everything – You can only test the waters and get your feet wet so many times. At some point, you’re just gonna have to jump in the f*&kin pool!
There is no such thing as the perfect time to start a new business or a new workout routine. You just gotta get in the trenches and adjust accordingly.
Is it scary? Absolutely.
Are you going to make mistakes? Absolutely.
But it’s by taking action and making mistakes that you learn and grow.
You think Michael Jordan never missed a jumper?
You think Muhammad Ali never got punched in the face?
Taking your lumps is what builds character and resilience.
Nothing is ever as bad as we think and the things that we worry about are usually so trivial that it doesn’t even make sense to let them hold us back.
sometimes you just gotta take your lumps
4. Focus on the essentials – The question you need to ask yourself is “what’s the most important thing I need to do right now?” It’s too easy to become distracted with TV and social media and never get anything done.
Each day make a to-do list with the most important things that need to get done that day. Make those things a priority and don’t waste your time with petty distractions until you’ve completed your list.
Turn your phone and email off. Just focus, even if it’s just for an hour, and you’ll be surprised how much more productive you’ll be.
5. Be consistent – I can’t stress this enough. Doing the little things extremely well, day in and day out, is what leads to huge success.
You won’t get jacked by working out just once. You need to hit the gym on a regular basis for years to build a strong, lean physique that will turn heads.
Likewise, you can’t show up to work for one week and then expect to get a raise. Your gonna have to demonstrate hard work and provide value on a regular basis long before your boss will fork out more money.
Life is like one huge compound effect where your current position is simply an accumulation of all the smaller actions you’ve taken up to that point.
Start building habits that push you one step closer toward your larger goals. Before you know it, you’re gonna be old and grey and you want to be able to look back and be proud of your efforts.
6. Set goals – Goal setting has shown to be one of the most effective ways to achieve success. Think of it like inputting a destination into your GPS and then taking the necessary roads and turns to get there.
Set big, long term goals that might take years to achieve and then work backwards and set smaller goals that can be achieved on a monthly, weekly, or even daily basis that will lead to your bigger goals.
If you want to bench press 315lbs, then a small goal might be to work out 3 times a week. Another goal might be to bench press at least once a week.
If you want to go on a Caribbean vacation, a small goal might be to save $100/month until you have a enough to buy a ticket.
The point is, without goals, it’s very easy to float through life with no real drive or ambition.
I never would have pulled 600 if I didn’t work towards that goal
Challenge yourself to do something you’ve thought about but never really made a conscious effort to make a reality.
7. Be yourself – As Russell Simmons would put it, you just need to “do you!” Sounds simple, but many of us are scared to be ourselves because we fear that “me” just isn’t good enough.
The more authentic you can be, the happier you’ll be. Don’t go through life trying to live up to other people’s expectations.
If you got a loud mouth personality then be a loud mouth (don’t be a dick but don’t be a timid little boy either).
If you like to sing and dance, then crank the music and put on a show!
If you like being strong and fit then workout harder and eat cleaner than anybody you know!
Just don’t hold back for fear of judgement. Following your own path will make you more passionate about everything do.
Life’s more fun when you don’t have to go through it wearing a mask.
8. Say no more often – It’s funny how we’ve become so programmed to be at everyone’s beck and call. We feel guilty if we don’t put everything aside every time someone asks us to to do something for them.
I’m not saying you need to be a selfish person but you need to have the strength to say no to other people’s menial tasks sometimes and make your own goals a priority.
The funny thing is, the more you help yourself, the more you’ll be able to help others.
By saying no a little more often, you can prioritize your tasks and become productive.
If you don’t have time to go to the gym because your boss always has you working late, then you need to tell him you can only stay late a couple nights a week so you can have more time to recover and be more productive.
Don’t take on more projects around the house if it means you’re going to have less time to spend with your family.
Don’t stay out late with your buddies drinking beer and eating chicken wings if you know you’re supposed to workout the next morning.
The people that care about you most will understand and respect your decisions.
Sometimes its’ not what you do that makes you successful, it’s what you DON’T do.
“For every 100 opportunities that are presented to me, I say no 99 times.” – Warren Buffett
9. Hire a coach – You can only get so far with your own blood, sweat, and tears. Even the most successful people have coaches and mentors to help push them to even higher levels.
Donald Trump, Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, and even Oprah Winfrey all had coaches to help them become the best they could be.
Want to build more muscle and get in better shape? Hire a coach.
Want to learn how to play the piano? Hire a coach.
Want to make more money so you can have more free time to enjoy life? Hire a coach.
They say that “everything you want is just outside of your comfort zone” and a coach is exactly what you need to get uncomfortable.
Not only will a coach teach you things you don’t know and force you to do things you’d never do, they’ll also provide a big, fat dose of ACCOUNTABILITY!
How many times have you said you were going to go on a diet and then a week later you’re back to eating pizza and potato chips?
Being accountable to someone will increase your chances of success because now you’ve spent some money and you don’t want to let anyone down.
even the very best have coaches
10. Don’t be afraid to fail – Most of our shortcomings stem from our fear of failure.
What if I don’t make the team?
What if I can’t lift that weight?
What is I come in last?
What if I don’t get the job?
What if she doesn’t want to go out with me?
Instead of focusing on all of the negative outcomes, you need to start thinking about how it would feel to overcome your fears.
How good would it feel to actually see something through to the end?
How good would it feel to actually drop that 20lbs of body fat?
How good would it feel to finish your projects before the deadlines?
If you shift your mind to the positive feelings associated with your goals, you’ll be more likely to strive to reach them.
Now, I’m not gonna lie, failure is a part of life and we all experience it at some point. You can think of failure as a test – a test of your passion and commitment.
If you’re desire to succeed outweighs your fear of failure, then you will succeed.
11. Break the rules – The world would be a very boring place if we all just “played by the rules” and did only what we think people expect of us.
It’s defying traditional thinking and pushing the envelope that makes us unique, innovative, and a cut above the rest.
Arnold Schwarzenegger never would have won Mr. Olympia 7 times if he just did 3 sets of 10 and called it a day.
Bo Jackson never would have played pro baseball and pro football if he listened to people that told him to specialize.
Rich Froning would never have won the Crossfit Games 4 times in row if he only worked out once a day.
Our cell phones wouldn’t be our most valued piece of technology if it wasn’t for Steve Jobs.
Instead of trying to pound round pegs into square holes, start making round holes.
The last thing the world needs is another Yes-man.
Kicking ass and taking names in life is no easy task but if you figure out what matters most to you and focus on those things, you’ll be way happier and well on your way to becoming a powerhouse.